
In my twenties I hated routineābut thatās because I confused it for stagnancy.
Anything that whiffed of repetition was automatically on my shit list: schedules, affirmations, habits, recurring obligations, things that put a vise on my freedom. I never wanted to live feeling beholden to a calendar, letting it rule my days more than I did.
To me, routines were for the weak: people who werenāt disciplined enough to get it done without force. When Iād get on interviews and theyād ask me about my morning routine, Iād laugh: every day is a new adventure, Iād say!
And, to be fair, it was. My goal in life has always been to out-fun everyone else. (Especially the self-righteous curmudgeons who had taken all of the ārightā steps and were still miserable.) Thatās what I wanted for my time on earthāradical pleasureāand in my twenties, I definitely think I did a pretty good job of that.
But, when I reached my thirties, something changed: I realized that there was a whole other form of pleasure I’d never recognized. A form I had never known, because I was too busy saying ānoā to routine and all of her fetters.
Turns out?
What I didnāt know then is that routine can be incredibly nourishingāespecially with a digital nomad lifestyleāso long as the things you are doing actually are.
THEREāS THE RUB.
Itās a subtle difference, but an important one, and the difference is this:
Routine versus ritual.
Routines are the things you do because youāre supposed to.
Rituals are the things you do because they nourish you.
Today, some of my favorite moments in the day are my daily rituals: the three hours I spend writing every morning, the 30 minutes of exercise I do before I shower, the gin & soda we have on the back deck at sunset, the hour I spend reading before bed each night. They have helped me structure my pleasure in a way that I didnāt have before.
They help me prioritize myself.
I think of this as my Nomad Happiness 401(k): tiny increments of āsavingsā that Iām budgeting toward a happier, more joyful life.
The habits expert, James Clear, often talks about the compounding effect of the things you do each day. āIf you can get 1 percent better each day, youāll end up with results that are nearly 37 times better after one year.ā And conversely, the opposite is true. (Which is terrifying. š± )
Iāve been hip on this 1% idea ever since my literary agent, Lisa, told me to read Jamesā bookāsheās his literary agent, too, those smartie pants hooligans. And as soon as I did, years ago now, I realized something that I had never quite understood before:
Doing something consistently and habitually does not make you a prisoner to your life: it gives you the freedom to live your life without constantly worrying that you are doing a bad job.
There is something SO FREEING in the act of building rituals that support you, rather than constantly letting your life be consumed by everyone elseās agenda.
The only problem is: where do you start? How do you find the time? How can you step off the hamster wheel? How can you know which rituals to employ? How do you get yourself organized? How do you plan for joy? HOW DO YOU FIND THE TIME? (Did I mention that??? lol.) How can you create a system for yourself? How can you know which things to quit? How can you be sure youāll actually stick to it? And, how can you get the courage to make a big change to begin with?
The answer: The Irreverent Career Method.
One of the first and only frameworks that will help you do meaningful work you love and get paid in what I call an omni-directional pattern, enjoying an abundance of yes, money ($) but also quality of life (QL$): time, freedom, travel, purpose, pleasure, family, and experiencesāinstead of only get paid from one direction. (Money.)
Make sure you’re registered for one of our upcoming workshops where we’ll show you how it works.
The Irreverent Career Co. is on a mission to dismantle outdated work models that no longer work for modern living & introduce you to a new one: one in which your work and professional contributions are decentralized from a central authorityāin this case, an employer; one in which you’re able to earn independently no matter where you are in the world; one in which your time is detached from your value; one in which you have leverage and control over what you earn, where you earn it, and how you spend your days.
Because now, there’s a new way of earning.
And pleasure is income, too.